O.A.R. has a concert in St. Louis, MO next Wed. June 10th, which I am attending. That is also the two year anniversery of one of my best friends (an
ex-girlfriend) dying due to an
eating disorder. I am trying to find out the best way to request that the band play "patiently" at their concert in St. Louis as that is the
anniversery of her death. That song has helped me through some tough times in dealing with her death. If you want the detailled version you can read below.
I would appreciate anyone's help in pointing me in the right direction to honor a friends memory.
After years of physical and mental abuse from her parents she finally lost control of her life and the disease took over. I was with her during the most
trying times of her disease, I personally took her to the hospital three times where she would usually stay for a week at at time. We were both in college at
the time, she a collegitate gymnast and me her only support trying to help her through her tough times. As you can imagine it took quite a tool on both of us
mentally and emotionally (although I cannot even begin to imagine what she went through). I learned about her death weeks after it happened and was not able
to attend the funeral and to this day haven't even been able to visit her grave. I will always feel like I should have done more to get her help.
"Patiently" resignates very strongly with me and the feeling and emotion Marc is able to put into it when he performs live is the closest thing that
I have found that I feel like someone who truly understands what it is like to lose someone so close to them. This request is my way of trying to do what I
can to make sure she is never forgotten. I want to make sure I am doing everything I can to honor her memory.
Any help to point me in the right direction would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks,
John









